like a virgin

April 30, 2014

Consider the pangs of conscience that may have intruded into your life when you first experimented with certain things that you knew were wrong. You were overwhelmed and shaken. Perhaps you even became physically ill. But the power of sin can erode the conscience to the point where it becomes a faint voice in the deepest recesses of your soul. By this, our consciences become hardened and callous, condemning what is right and excusing what is wrong.


For some of us it’s hard to remember being sensitive, easily offended, shocked or even alarmed. I hate to sound like a prude, but I am shocked at what Christians’ watch for entertainment.  It seems as though if it’s popular it’s excusable.


Vampires, sex, horror shows (I’ve never understood that) I’ve seen enough real horrors in life to not want to volunteer to see more.


The worse language, it’s ok, it’s funny.


There is one trend crude Christians exemplify, they don’t study their bibles.


A casual reading, maybe, but prayerfully, carefully, not at all.




Because being in love with the things (entertainment) of this world will rob you of any desire to know the things of God.

And this is what happens….

Hosea 4:6

English Standard Version (ESV)

My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge;
because you have rejected knowledge,
I reject you from being a priest to me.
And since you have forgotten the law of your God,
I also will forget your children.

God bless from

Pray for mandy who is raising a child as an unwed 16 year old, rejected and thrown out by her parents.


Luke 12

Although we do not know when the Lord will return, (and yes I believe in a literal return of Jesus) we know that each day brings us one step closer to that momentous event.

In these final days, it is important for us as Christians to live life with a certain amount of urgency.

We must be genuine in the way we live, so we may bring glory to Him and also fulfill His command for us to preach the gospel and make disciples.


1. Don’t be a hypocrite (vv. 1-3). The word hypocrisy means “to hide behind a mask,” trying to be someone you’re not. It starts small and works its way into your entire life, just as yeast gets worked into a piece of dough. Hypocrisy is also futile because nothing is hidden from God.

 Whatever you try to hide will be revealed someday.

2. Confess Christ openly (vv. 4-9). The idea here is not just to acknowledge God; after all, Satan and his demons also acknowledge God’s existence. We should also be committed to Him, following  Him, and confessing Him. This isn’t easy if you’re in a room full of skeptics and nonbelievers,  but Jesus says He will stand up for those who will speak out for Him.

3. Do not blaspheme the Holy Spirit (v. 10). In a nutshell, this is the complete rejection of Jesus Christ as Savior and Lord, knowing that He is the Way, the Truth, and the Life, but resisting Him.

 This is a sin that only a non-believer can commit; an irrevocable hardening of the heart toward  the Holy Spirit. (take heart in this, a Christian cannot blaspheme the Holy Spirit, so as a believer you never have to worry about committing this sin, no matter what anybody says.)

4. Do not fear (v. 32). The image here of a flock of sheep is appropriate. As Scripture points out, we tend to go astray and are completely reliant on the Lord for provision, protection, and direction.

 And yet, God wants to give us His kingdom—the rule and reign of Jesus Christ in our lives. That  should be encouragement for all of us.

God bless from


nose hair

April 28, 2014

Proverbs 27:6

English Standard Version (ESV)

Faithful are the wounds of a friend;

Proverbs 27:17

English Standard Version (ESV)

17 Iron sharpens iron,
and one man sharpens another

I’ve never tied those two verses together until now.

Have you ever had someone as a friend come up to you and pull you up short and ask you, “what are you doing”, or “you need to straighten up”.

It’s like pulling a nose hair. Painful but probably necessary.

And last but not least;

Proverbs 18:24

New King James Version (NKJV)

24 A man who has friends must himself be friendly,
But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

In order to have friends you have to be friendly, family can desert you; but true lasting friends will love you and hold your feet to the fire.

If you have a friend you haven’t said hello to in a while, now would be a good time to reach out.

God bless from

put a sock in it

April 27, 2014

Ok, I’ve been sitting on my hands, not wanting to write this because I don’t want spend days on this topic and it would take a significant amount of time to cover all the bases.

So I’ll just go for the knockout and if you have questions or comments you can email me.

ONE; every book ever written about Near Death Experiences (NDE’s) or every book written about people going to heaven or hell. ALL WRONG, ALL FAKE, ALL NOT SCRIPTUAL.

TWO, every movie out there no matter how sweet, kind, noble stirring, etc. about dying and going to heaven or hell, ALL WRONG, ALL FALSE, ALL NON-BIBLICALLY CORRECT.

Seriously, if a story, (including movies like NOAH) or one that contradicts the bible comes out and it’s in a public movie theater that should be your first clue its wrong. Since when does Hollywood promote God?

Second, if it’s popular and everyone is going to see it or read it, it’s probably wrong, full of errors and made just to screw you up.

If a book is selling like wildfire in your church, I would really question its accuracy.

Why? Because the Gospel Message is hard, tough, not for the lazy or incompetent. It’s not for pleasure seekers or people wanting to be happy.

The Gospel message is a sword, it cuts, it separates, it pierces, you want cute buy a puppy.

Save your money, give to a missionary, don’t spend it on this crap.

You want see Jesus, read the bible, want a near death experience, visit me.

While I’m at it, if you see a medium, spiritualist, palm reader, shaman, read a horoscope, play with an Ouija board, you’re an idiot and consorting with evil.

Wake up, grow up, and act like a real Christian, which really isn’t all that popular.

One more, Tolerance, it’s over rated and not really Biblical.

God bless from

a little tongue

April 26, 2014

Colossians 4:6

English Standard Version (ESV)

Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person.


“The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit” (Proverbs 18:21)


Not-so-constructive criticism. For many of us this is a tough one, because we really mean for our criticism to be constructive. We want our little comments and suggestions to motivate our loved ones and inspire them to change (for the better, of course). But too often, they only devalue.  We say we just want our loved ones to be happy. But how can they be, when what they hear from us is that they are unacceptable and unlovable the way they are now? They get the message that they’re a disappointment to us; they’ve let us down.


It’s been said that some people find fault like there was a reward for it. I think it’s true. If we’re not careful, we can get in the habit of constantly criticizing other people, finding fault with them and tearing them down, for no good reason.


Truth not spoken in love. Just because something is true doesn’t mean it’s always loving or helpful to say it. This includes bludgeoning others with Scripture in a misguided attempt to set them straight. The family of a woman I know once found itself facing one crisis after another: loss of a job, death of an elderly parent, adult daughter attempting suicide, and adult son going through a divorce. To top it all off, she and her husband both came down with bronchitis.


When, for the first time in five weeks, they were finally able to attend church, they slipped into the pew exhausted and desperate for some spiritual nourishment. Within minutes they were accosted by a woman, barely more than an acquaintance, determined to take them to task for their recent absence. “I’ve noticed you haven’t been coming to church lately,” she began. “The Bible says we’re not supposed to ‘give up meeting together.’ We’re all busy, but we have to make it a priority. You need to make a commitment to be here.” She added, “I’m just telling you this because we’re supposed to ‘speak the truth in love.’”

Seriously? There was no love behind her words. She was just being a busy-body. Love would have said, “It’s so good to see you. We’ve missed you. How have you been?” And later, “How can we help?”


“Humor” that gets out of hand. We were just teasing. Having a little fun. Then it got out of hand. Sarcasm has a place, for sure; it serves a purpose. It can be an effective tool to highlight hypocrisy and humble the proud and arrogant. (God uses a fair amount of it Himself.) But it’s not meant to be used to constantly ridicule and rip to shreds people we claim we love. Even when our quips are clearly intended to be funny, even when they’re accompanied by laughter, a daily barrage of snarky asides can be brutal to another person’s self-esteem. Even those of us who regularly enjoy a little “witty repartee” have to admit how quickly “cute” and “clever” can grow old.

Add a little sarcasm to a compliment and you can steal all the pride and joy, the enthusiasm, and the sense of accomplishment right out of someone else’s heart.

“Wow! You cleaned your room for once. Too bad it doesn’t look this good every day.” Or, “Your teacher says you’re so organized and disciplined at school—wish you could be that way at home!” A favorite excuse: “We’re not laughing at you; we’re laughing with you.” Really?


The silent treatment. Strangely enough, one of the ways we wound with our words is to withhold them! When we refuse to communicate, when we won’t say what it is we’re upset about or what people have done wrong, we shut them out. We fill their hearts with anxiety and frustration and even dread. We make them feel isolated and rejected—without saying a single word. And that is after all, what the silent treatment is for. Not to be confused with taking time out or having a cooling off period, the silent treatment is all about manipulation and control.

It’s a form of punishment or revenge that somehow feels more righteous than an angry outburst. But throwing this kind of tantrum is not the mark of an emotionally healthy, spiritually mature woman. It certainly isn’t biblical (see Matthew 18:15-17).


These are just a few of the weapons at our disposal; they go on and on.


So speak in love, be careful what you say and think before you speak.


I always stop at stop signs and say one Alabama, two Alabama, after getting stopped by the police for rolling through a stop sign. If only I practiced the same way before opening my mouth.


What we say can bless or harm


God bless from


Pray for Sarah; her son ran away from home, for Chuck, who is only 59 and just diagnosed with Parkinson. Bobby who just found his wife being unfaithful.

Lisa who is dealing with Lou Gehrig’s disease as well as Steve, who has battling it for several years.

Our prayers are with you.

not strange

April 25, 2014

James 1:2

New King James Version (NKJV)

My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials,

1:2 In this section James deals with the subject of temptation. He uses the word in two different senses. In verses 2–12, the temptations are what we might call holy trials or problems which are sent from God, and which test the reality of our faith and produce likeness to Christ. In verses 13–17, on the other hand, the subject is unholy temptations, which come from within, and which lead to sin. The Christian life is filled with problems. They come uninvited and unexpected. Sometimes they come singly and sometimes in droves. They are inevitable. James does not say “if you fall into various trials” but when. We can never get away from them. The question is, “What are we going to do about them?”

There are several possible attitudes we can take toward these testings and trials of life. We can rebel against them (Heb. 12:5) by adopting a spirit of defiance, boasting that we will battle through to victory by our own power. On the other hand, we can lose heart or give up under pressure (Heb. 12:5). This is nothing but fatalism. It leads to questioning even the Lord’s care for us. Again, we can grumble and complain about our troubles. This is what Paul warns us against in 1 Corinthians 10:10. Another option—we can indulge in self-pity, thinking of no one but ourselves, and trying to get sympathy from others. Or better, we can be exercised by the difficulties and perplexities of life (Heb. 12:11). We can say, in effect, “God has allowed this trial to come to me. He has some good purpose in it for me. I don’t know what that purpose is, but I’ll try to find out. I want His purposes to be worked out in my life.”

Your very response to the trial says all about your theology of God and your relationship with Him.

So at your next trial, and there will be one, think long and hard before you complain to God, or anyone else for that matter


God bless from


seldom done

April 24, 2014

seldom do i mention some of the great living pastors. but today i’m not only am recommending one, but also putting one of his outlines here as he is an elder statesman to me, and  has done such a wonderful job as outlining our wearing the armor of God much better than i think i did.


that pastor is Rev. Adrian Rogers, i doubt he remembers me. i knew his father and visited the church quite often. but here is his sermon outline on the armor of God. it is a masterful work and i heartily recommend Adrian as a pastor and author. i believe he has the honor of being the first pastor i’ve recommended on the site.


Ephesians 6:10-20 (Program: 2169 Air dates: 2.9.2014 & 2.16.14)

    1. We are part of a spiritual war:  a war between light and darkness, good and evil, Heaven and Hell, and Christ and Satan.
    2. As Christians, we are Heaven-born and Heaven-bound, but we are also born for a battle.
    3. We must understand that not only were we born for the battle; but when we were born again, we were also born to win.
    1. We must know who our enemy is so that we can prepare properly for the battle.
    2. How is the enemy described?
      1. He is a decided fact.  (Ephesians 6:11)
      2. He is a destructive force.  (Ephesians 6:11)
        1. He is strategic.  (Ephesians 6:11)
        2. He is spiritual.  (Ephesians 6:12)
          1. 1 John 4:1
        3. He is strong.  (Ephesians 6:12)
          1. In our flesh, we are no match for him.
        4. He is sinister.  (Ephesians 6:12)
      3. He is a defeated foe.  (Ephesians 6:10)
        1. John 12:31
        2. 1 John 4:4
        3. God is almighty and greater than our adversary.  While Satan was defeated at Calvary, God still allows Satan to have power on this earth.  It is limited power that we as Christians can and shall overcome in the Lord Jesus Christ.
    1. If we are not prepared for battle, then we will lose the battle.
    2. We are to put on the whole armor of God.
      1. The girdle of truth, which is the believer’s integrity.  (Ephesians 6:14)
        1. Satan’s attack is untruth and lying; to bring a lack of integrity into our lives.
      2. The breastplate of righteousness, which is the believer’s purity.  (Ephesians 6:14)
        1. There is to be no unconfessed, unrepented of sin in our lives.
        2. Matthew 5:8
        3. Proverbs 4:23
        4. The enemy attacks with impurity and lust.
      3. The shoes of peace, which is the believer’s tranquility.  (Ephesians 6:15)
        1. We are to be at peace with God, have peace with one another, and have the peace of God in our hearts. Then, we will have the ability to stand firm.
        2. Psalm 119:165
        3. The enemy attacks with discouragement.
      4. The shield of faith, which is the believer’s certainty.  (Ephesians 6:16)
        1. The enemy attacks with doubts.
        2. Feed your faith; starve your doubts.
      5. The helmet of salvation, which is the believer’s sanity.  (Ephesians 6:17)
        1. This is a helmet of deliverance; it refers to salvation and a home in Heaven, but it also means a mind under the control of Almighty God.
        2. When a person gets saved, for the first time he has his right mind.  (Mark 5:1-20)
        3. Until we are saved, we do not have the mind that God intends for us to have, which is the mind of Christ.
    1. It’s not enough to simply put on the armor; we have to join in the fight.
    2. What will guarantee our victory?
      1. The place of our stance.  (Ephesians 6:13-14)
        1. We stand in the finished work of Calvary.  (Ephesians 6:10)
        2. Revelation 12:11
      2. The power of our sword.  (Ephesians 6:17)
        1. Hebrews 4:12
        2. Matthew 4:1-4
      3. The provision of the Spirit.  (Ephesians 6:18)
        1. Every warrior needs a supply, and our supply comes through prayer to our Heavenly Commander, praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit.
        2. The Holy Spirit directs our prayer.
        3. The Holy Spirit understands what the enemy is up to; we do not.
    1. We are not a one-man army.
    2. We need to pray for one another because we fight with one another against a common enemy.
    3. Deuteronomy 32:30
    1. Things to remember about the battle:
      1. Choose sides carefully.
        1. If you do not follow Jesus, then you’re on the losing side.
    2. Examine your heart and make sure that you have on all the armor of God.
    3. Don’t try to be neutral.
      1. Matthew 12:30
    4. Rejoice in the victory and live victoriously every day.

God bless and special prayers for Charlene and Henry. they’ve asked not to go into details but pray for the loss of their very young son.

God bless from



April 23, 2014

Tell your story once and then forget about it.




I know that word doesn’t exist in the dictionary, I just made it up.


As a psychologist I’ve come to realize after 30 plus years of counseling, that people can get stuck in their past. As Christians it’s a bigger problem. We are new people in Christ Jesus.


Over simplification here, but, get over it.


Either the  past and what happened defines you or what you’ve become as a new person in Christ defines you.


You can’t have it both ways.


I’ve counseled to many people that have forgotten that I know them and all the sordid details of their past (and what really happened). And then 20 years later they come in and they’ve redefined themselves (not for the better). The events are now more horrific and they have suffered more.


The horrors of the past are now more important that what God has done to them and for them.


Where the bible teaches us that even our victories and triumphs are to be forgotten and we are to push on, move on, develop and grow.


There’s no way I can do this topic justice in so short of space, but for better mental and spiritual health, let go of those things that happened and tell everyone the new story, the better story. The one where God rescued you and saved you and keeps you and blesses you, today and tomorrow.


Be that new person.


God bless from

your out of your mind

April 22, 2014

The Christian is always a target for criticisms that may or may not be valid. Even within the Christian community, there are wide differences of opinion regarding which behaviors are pleasing to God and which aren’t.

One man approves dancing; another disapproves of it. How do we know who is correct?


We see in the New Testament that the conscience is not the final ethical authority for human conduct because the conscience is capable of change.


Face it, how many times have you talked yourself into trouble? The wrong choice, decision, purchase, etc. all based on self-talk, that was never of God.


I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard good meaning persons say; ‘they had a word from the Lord’ and trust me it almost never was.


What we think can be so misleading. That is why being close to God through prayer and a godly life is so important. It will give you confidence that you are being led by God.


It’s still one step forward and two back, but hey some days that’s pretty good.


God bless from


For those of you that have been praying for Wilma, continue to do so please, she’s had another small stroke.

Thank you to all the prayer partners

webster says

April 21, 2014

What does the Bible mean when it speaks of a “sanctified” man?


Sanctification is that inward spiritual work which the Lord Jesus Christ works in a man by the Holy Ghost, when He calls him to be a true believer. He not only washes him from his sins in His own blood, but He also separates him from his natural love of sin and the world, puts a new principle in his heart, and makes him practically godly in life.

The instrument by which the Spirit effects this work is generally the Word of God, though He sometimes uses afflictions and providential visitations “without the Word” (1 Peter 3:1.) The subject of this work of Christ by His Spirit is called in Scripture a “sanctified” man.


Some people don’t want to hear about this idea, because they think we are talking about ‘works’ or deeds; or they confuse justification with sanctification.


They think the song; ‘just as I am’ really means just as I am. Nothing could be farther from the truth. The person who doesn’t practice godly restraint, control, putting on the armor of God, walking in the spirit, is fooling themselves about even being a Christian.


Here’s a term we don’t use any more; ‘licentiousness’ the opposite of sanctification.  And condemned in the bible.


I know it’s not as thrilling as ‘end times’ or the gifts of the Holy Spirit, but’s it’s crucial to the subject of our growth in the Lord.


Now people can get carried away with the idea and go way overboard, trust me, I used to belong to one of those denominations where everything was a sin and hell fire and brimstone was the only Sunday sermon.

That hardline message needs to be tempered with mercy.


People struggle with enough guilt as it is anyway. But there has to be a balance. Hopefully we can find it here.


God bless from