a healthy home

November 19, 2015



A recurrent theme in the Bible is the training children through teaching and example.  The book of Deuteronomy is explicit in stating that children be taught the ways of God. “And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: and thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up” (Deuteronomy 6:6,7,KJV).


The book of Proverbs is a compendium of the wisdom of God’s people. The family and the nurturing of children in the faith is one of its strong emphases.  “Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will not depart from it” (Proverbs 22:6 KJV).


Timothy had been taught the Scriptures from infancy, according to God’s command and Jewish custom. “And that from a child thou hast know the holy scriptures, which are able to make thee wise unto salvation through faith with is in Christ Jesus” (2 Timothy 3:15, KJV).


Paul speaks of the necessity for continuity in training and disciplining our children: “When I call to remembrance the unfeigned faith that is in thee, which dwelt first in thy grandmother Lois, and they mother Eunice; and I am persuaded that in thee also” (2 Timothy 1:5, KJV).


The Bible teaches that parents have the responsibility of training and disciplining their children so that they might be brought up knowing the Scriptures and honoring the Lord; here is what makes a good home;

  1. A stable, peaceful, and loving home.

  2. A family-centered home where there is a sense of solidarity, mutual respect, and encouragement. A home where the family does things together, especially when children are younger.

  3. A God-centered home where each member has the right to respond to God’s love in Christ, and to be taught how to live from a spiritual perspective. See Proverbs 22:6

  4. A church-oriented home. It is much easier to raise children when their lives and those of their families and friends are centered in the church.

  1. Parents should introduce their children to the world of the mind by example and practice. If parents are readers, children are likely to read also. Good books and magazines on the child’s level should be introduced into the home. Music lessons, hobbies, and sports should be introduced while children are at grade school level.  This will be a safeguard against conflicts as the teen years come.

  2. Encourage parents to recognize that their child has certain rights, but that these rights integrate with those affecting all members of the family.

  3. The child has the right to be loved and accepted.

  4. The child has the right to receive that kind of reinforcement which leads to self-respect and a sense of security and significance.

  5. The child has the right to see parents demonstrate genuine affection and respect for each other. Examples of mature, Christian behavior are needed in order that children may see how the parents handle problems and stress.

  6. The child has the right to be disciplined and punished with fairness and consistency.

(1) Do not expect more from a child than he can deliver.

(2) Be fair and just in administering punishment. Excessive demands and harsh, physical punishment lead quickly to resentment and rebellion. Parents should be flexible and not demand the “letter of the law.”

(3) Never punish in anger or on the spur of the moment.

(4) Always give an explanation to the child so that he knows why he is being punished.

  1. Encourage the parent to keep the lines of communication open at all cost.

  2. The parent must take time to be an attentive listener and take the initiative in encouraging dialogue. There must be frank discussion in regard to sex, drugs, alcohol, dating, etc.

  3. the parent should share experiences from his childhood and teen years, including the mistakes and failures.

  4. The parent must be honest, permitting a child to question his standards and beliefs. This gives the opportunity to explain and defend them. Through this, your child will formulate his own standards of beliefs and values. You can challenge them and help them in setting goals for the moment and for life.


“The just man walketh in his integrity: his children are blessed after him.”

            Proverbs 20:7, KJV

“Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.”

            Colossians 3:21, KJV

“My son, do not despise the Lord’s discipline and do not resent his rebuke, because the Lord disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in.”

            Proverbs 3:11,12, NIV

“Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother – which is the first commandment with a promise – that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.  Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.”

            Ephesians 6:1-4, NIV

God bless from scumlikeuschurch@gmail.com

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