commitment

January 28, 2018

It’s a day of throwaway marriages. Disposable marriages. Discardable marriages. And what a tragedy it is. I was recently reading Newsweek magazine, an article on marriage, and I want you to listen to it.

The landscape is littered with victims of the divorce epidemic. Ex-wives raising their children alone. Former husbands trying to start new lives and still be good fathers to kids they see only on specified days. And the children themselves often tore between two warring parents. In a recently completed ten-year study of sixty divorced, middle-class families in Northern California, psychologist Judy Warstein, found that only ten percent of the ex-spouses said they had both succeeded in improving their own lives. That is for ninety percent of these, they said it was a disaster. Divorce, Warstein said, has been a wrenching experience for every family I have ever seen.

Now that’s in a secular article. Divorce—a wrenching experience for every family I’ve seen. Now I am not here to make divorced people feel worse. If you’ve been divorced, thank God for the grace of God that cleanses. But I am here to lay out a warning to those who are not yet married and to help those who are married to have what I want to call today a Super Glue Marriage.

I want to show you today how to make-up and not to break-up because dear friend, if you do break up, I can tell you with all of the emphasis, function and emotion in my soul there’s going to be heartache, there’s going to be difficulty. There are no whole eggs in a broken nest.

The average 13 year old spends 8.3 hours per day!!! On an electronic device. Where the heck are the parents. If they are not taking care of their children they can’t be taking care of their marriage either

I’ve said this before but I’ll say it again, regardless of your child’s age, when they get home their cell phone goes into a locked box, and there’s no tv, computer, electronic anything in their bedroom. And once a week you go through their room looking for contraband. Be the parent, grow up, take responsibility. Discipline your kids.

people with broken lives tend to build broken homes, which tend to produce broken lives, which tend to produce broken homes, and there’s a vicious cycle.

Psychologists tell us that girls tend to marry men like their fathers. Now you can see why mothers cry at weddings.

Marriage is the highest of all earthly, human relationships. When God says that a man shall cleave to his wife, that speaks of the permanence of marriage. Actually the word here, “cleave,” means to “weld” or to “glue.” That’s the reason I’m talking to you about a Super Glue Marriage. All right, that’s the permanence of marriage. And then they shall become one flesh—that’s the purpose of marriage. That a man and a woman come together and become in the closest bond and communion, one flesh. Never thinking if this one doesn’t work out maybe the next one will.

I don’t care what your excuse is, but we have to teach our children that marriage is for life. “Oh, we were just incompatible” is a lie.

There must be such a total commitment to marriage if you want your marriage to last. Now folks, you show me a boy and a girl who come to the marriage altar, who say in the back of their minds, “Well if this doesn’t work out, we can get a divorce,” and I’ll show you a boy and a girl who have a great potentiality for getting a divorce.

But you show me a boy and a girl who come to the marriage altar and say there’s no such word as divorce in our vocabulary, we are making a lifetime, a lasting commitment. We’ve thrown away the parachute. There is no other way for us, no matter what happens, thick or thin; we’re going to stick it out. I’ll show you a marriage that has a great potentiality for staying together.

You want great advice on your marriage ask a couple that’s been married 70 years.

But no, what I see are people asking their divorced friends what they should do.

Why, because they want permission to get divorced.

it is not primarily your love that holds your marriage together, it is your marriage that holds your love together. It is that commitment that enables your love to go on and on and on. And without that commitment your love is going to disintegrate. Don’t get the idea that your home is held together by love. Your home is held together by a commitment. It is your commitment that sustains your marriage. And sustains your love, not vice versa.

God bless from scumlikeuschurch@gmail.com

 

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