1 PETER 3:1-2;Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, 2 when they see the purity and reverence of your lives

We must consider 1 Peter 3:1-2: “In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior.” “Disobedient to the word” primarily refers to an unbelieving husband, but it may include a professing believer who is difficult, cantankerous, or disobedient.

What should the wife do? First, she should to make sure that her behavior, attitude, and words, are “chaste and respectful,” and that she has a “gentle and quiet spirit” (1 Pet. 3:4). “Chaste” means, “pure, undefiled.” She should never retaliate to abusive speech with abusive speech or punish her husband with the silent, angry treatment, but rather, give a blessing instead (1 Pet. 3:9). If she is angry and bitter, she needs to repent and show him God’s love (Matt. 5:44-46; Luke 6:27-28, 32-33). “Gentle” means “strength under control.” “Quiet” means not being contentious or argumentative.

A wife should never join her husband in sinful behavior. If he makes a profession of faith or is a church member, but insists that she join him in sinful behavior, after appealing to him, if he persists she should go to the elders of the church to seek godly counsel. They need to confront his sin. If he is not a believer, she should gently explain the reason that she cannot join him in disobedience to the Lord (1 Pet. 3:13-16).

If the disobedient husband is being verbally but not physically abusive, the wife needs to make sure that she does not provoke him by her words or behavior (unless he is provoked by her godly behavior!). She should gently explain that she would like to be close to him, but his abusive speech is creating distance. If he threatens violence or is violent against her or the children, she should flee to a place of safety. If he has been physically violent or he’s using illegal drugs in the home, she should report him to the police. God ordained the government to punish evildoers and protect law-abiding citizens. No man should be allowed to bully his family and cause them to live in constant fear because of his violent temper.

But, coming back to 1 Peter 3, winning the disobedient husband without a word means being a godly example in the face of his ungodly behavior (1 Pet. 3:8-17 goes on to explain this). Sometimes (but not always) God will use a wife’s godly behavior to bring her disobedient husband to repentance and faith. But whatever his response, she will know that she is pleasing the Lord.

If you’re in a difficult situation, I encourage you to seek godly counsel. Find a mature woman of God, to confide in and pray with. The command for a wife to submit is never license for a husband to be abusive. An abusive husband needs to repent. A wife’s submissive, gentle, and quiet spirit is God’s way to win a disobedient husband to repentant faith in Christ (1 Pet. 3:1-4). It follows the example of the Lord Jesus, who, while being reviled, “did not revile in return; while suffering, He uttered no threats, but kept entrusting Himself to Him who judges righteously” (1 Pet. 2:23). Submission to God-ordained authority is not easy, especially when the authority is not godly. But it is “fitting in the Lord.”

So it’s our choice, man or woman, follow the pattern for a godly, biblical marriage and be blessed. Or choose your own way and create a living hell, never feeling satisfied, always envious of someone else’s marriage, which usually leads to infidelity.

God has given us free will, not necessarily the smarts to go with it. That’s why we have the bible as a road map to success.

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Pray for Karey, she is wanting the whole family to go to church together. Now they have young teens (2) and she regrets not keeping them active in church.

Pray for Dallas W, 66 years old, he just gave his heart to the Lord (Salvation, born again, new Christian) and his family (wife and grown sons) are saying he’s nuts or having an identity crisis. Pray for him to be a godly husband and father and servant and to lead by example.

Husbands and Wives part four. Don’t worry about the titles, I mis-numbered where we are, so some will think this is part 3. (we are almost done, hang it there).

It’s interesting that while Titus 2:4 mentions a wife’s loving her husband in the context of submission, neither Ephesians nor 1 Peter (nor Colossians) mention a wife’s love. Instead Ephesians (5:33) and 1 Peter (3:2, 6) both mention respect in connection with submission. Respect is a crucial element of biblical submission.

But what often happens is that a couple starts marriage with high expectations. They’re in love and they think that love will conquer all their problems. But not too far into the marriage, the honeymoon wears off and there are disappointments as expectations are not met. Often this takes place unconsciously, since many of the expectations are not consciously identified. The husband, who may not be as relationally tuned in as his wife, deals with his marital disappointments by burying himself in his job.

The disappointed wife tries to remodel her husband by nagging him about his shortcomings and about not meeting her emotional needs. He’s clueless about how to meet her needs, but he’s pretty confident in his job, so he pours himself into work. When he makes feeble attempts to lead spiritually or relationally at home, she resists his efforts, because she doesn’t respect his relational skills or his spiritual leadership. The end result is emotional distance, relational hurts, and sometimes the disintegration of the marriage.

If, instead of that downward cycle, a wife will work at showing her husband respect, acceptance, and appreciation for anything she can possibly affirm, and she responds to his attempts at leadership, it will lead to greater unity and intimacy in the marriage. Wives, make note of this: Men react to nagging either by flight or by fight. A nice husband will run for cover; a more belligerent husband will fight back. But neither leads to greater marital intimacy. But 1 Peter 3:1-4 says that even a disobedient husband may be won by a wife’s gentle and quiet spirit.

Part of submitting to your husband involves looking for things that please him and doing them. But some of you may be thinking, “If I do that, how will my needs be met?” Or, “I’d meet more of his desires and needs if he weren’t so selfish and would meet more of my needs!” But marriage is not a 50-50 deal (even though that’s what every book and two bit counselor says). Each partner needs to give 100 percent in the way God has ordained and leave their partner’s response up to the Lord. When that happens, God often changes the partner and the needs of the one who stepped out first in obedience to God are met.

Many years ago a wife on the verge of divorce came to me, along with two of our deacons’ wives, who were counseling her to leave him (needless to say, we had several training sessions with deacons and their wives on giving biblical counseling). Her husband, who professed to be a Christian, left early each morning for a long commute to work and returned late in the evening, after stopping off to have a couple of beers at a bar. He would eat dinner, watch some TV, and hit the sack. Except for providing for them, he was completely disengaged from the family. She had to do it all and she was extremely frustrated and constantly let him know about it.

I explained 1 Peter 3 and advised that rather than criticizing and nagging her husband for his lack of involvement, she should thank him for his hard work and for anything else that she honestly could affirm. I told her to make her home a refuge for him so that there was nowhere else that he would rather be. She took my advice and stopped nagging him. Instead, she cheerfully greeted him when he got home, telling him how much she appreciated his hard work. She focused on meeting his needs. He started coming home earlier, eating dinner with the family, and even leading them in family devotions. When I left that church, with tears streaming down her cheeks she thanked me for holding to God’s Word that day. She said, “I wouldn’t have my family together today if you had compromised what God’s Word says.”

So the practice of submission involves an attitude of respect and a response to the husband’s leadership.

If there is one word about what destroys a marriage, it’s “selfishness”. And it is rampant in the church. I don’t get it, because the ‘servant’ mentality that teaches all we are to be should kill selfishness. I have to confess that I was shocked that our deacons’ wives would offer this kind of counseling. I had both the deacons’ step down for one year. To examine their leadership in the home and sent them out of the church to another biblical counselor to work on their marriages.

Counseling almost ender their marriages, because each wife was a ‘liberated’ Christian woman. There is no such thing. Yet, it is one of the biggest obstacles to a healthy, loving marriage. Husbands need respect, women need security. Husbands that don’t come home after work or golf all weekend, simply don’t want to be their wives. It’s vicious circle.

To all believers, lead a biblical life and you will find peace and harmony in all you do. Don’t compromise biblical principals and God will bless you in ways you can’t imagine. And best of all, when the storms of life hit you there will be no doubt about your relation to God. Give God the respect He deserves, and you will have peace of mind and joy.

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Pray for Susan and her 3 children. Her husband was killed today on the way to work. His pickup truck was hit so hard by another truck, that his truck split in two. The cab and the pickup bed were 45 feet apart. His body burst like a balloon. His dog left only a shadow on the dashboard. If they family didn’t say he traveled with his dog, no one would have even known. The driver that hit him is dead as well and we still don’t know what happened, heart attack, fell asleep, we don’t know.

Life is like a mist; one puff of air and we are gone.

Live every day for the Lord.

HUSBANDS AND WIVES

October 16, 2018

Well, this is really part three with some stuff in between. After the topic of tithing, this seems to be the next most volatile sermon I can preach. I’ve never got death threats from this topic, but I do get some interesting comments from husbands and especially the wives. The fact that it’s biblical doesn’t seem to matter to some folks, “I’m still messing with their marriage”.

Submission is valid for all times and cultures because it is fitting in the Lord.

In God’s original creation, the man and woman together were to reflect God’s image which, in part, involves the voluntary submission of the Son to the Father in order to carry out the divine plan of salvation. Though the Son is co-eternal and co-equal with the Father, Jesus submitted Himself to the cross so that Satan’s dominion would be broken. The husband and wife are to relate to one another as the Father and Son relate to each other. The wife, though equal with her husband, submits to him to reflect God’s image and His relation with Christ the Son and our relation to Christ our Savior.

Paul develops this theme in Ephesians 5 where he states that Christian marriage is a picture of Christ and the church. Just as the church is subject to Christ, so wives ought to be to their husbands (Eph. 5:24). Why? Because through Christ and the church, which Paul calls the new man, created in God’s image (Eph. 2:15; 4:24; Col. 3:10), God is recovering what was lost in the fall of the first creation. Christian marriage, as the unit of the church, is to reflect God’s image through the sacrificial love of the husband for his wife and the voluntary submission of the wife to her husband in a context of equality as they exercise dominion over God’s enemy.

One way that an enemy can defeat its foe is to instill discontent and insurrection among the ranks. If you can get the enlisted men complaining about their lot, fighting against the officers, and trying to grab authority, you’ve just about won the war. That’s why Satan first approached Eve, not Adam, and got her to usurp his authority. Today his strategy is the same: to promise greater happiness to wives if they will get out from under their husbands’ authority. Many Christian wives do not realize that we are engaged in combat against the unseen forces of darkness in heavenly places and that Christian marriage is to reflect the relationship between Christ and the church. So they cast off the idea of authority in marriage—and play right into Satan’s hand!

So the principle of the headship of the husband and the submission of the wife is not cultural. In creation God’s order was to create the man first and then to create Eve as his helper. At the fall, the authority of the husband, which the wife had usurped, was specifically decreed (Gen. 3:16). Paul’s analogy of Christ and the church is the basis of his appeal for the proper order in marriage. Thus it is fitting in the Lord for the wife to submit herself to her husband to uphold God’s purpose for creating human beings, namely, to reflect His image and to crush Satan’s dominion. It’s not up for grabs if a culture believes differently.

Beyond the theological reasons, I believe there are other reasons to follow the biblically ordained roles for husbands and wives. God has made us as male and female with distinctive strengths, weaknesses, and needs. When each partner dies to his or her pursuit for self-fulfillment and lives in obedience to God to fulfill the needs of his or her mate, both partners are fulfilled. A godly, loving husband provides protection and support, both financially and emotionally, for his wife, which she lacks if she is independent of him.

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Pray for Richard C, 91 years old, he came to Jesus late in life. (60’s) because of a Gideon bible in his hotel room. Doesn’t go to church (never has) he feels that reading his bible 2 hours a day is more than enough. We finally got him enrolled in a online bible study and I’m hoping as he “chats” online he will feel the need for personal fellowship. Although at his age he’s pretty set in his ways.

Pray for Betty K, she will bury her husband of 56 years this Wednesday, no kids and a very small circle of friends. She also is sporadic in church attendance, I’m hoping we can help fill the void.

Pray for Kyle, a church worship leader that does coke, I don’t even know where to begin with this prayer request. His pastor won’t make him step down because Kyle is semi famous. So pray for the pastor, the church and Kyle.

the godly couple

October 15, 2018

Ok, I sort of got sidetracked from the discussion of submission, so here is part two.

What is submission?

  1. Submission is to put oneself under another’s authority.

The Greek word Paul (Colossians 3:18) uses here is a military term meaning to put oneself in rank under another. God has ordained the principle of authority and submission in a number of different spheres: Citizens are to be subject to civil authorities (Rom. 13:1; Titus 3:1); slaves to their masters (Col. 3:22; Titus 2:9); church members to their leaders (1 Cor. 16:16; Titus 2:15; Heb. 13:17); children to their parents (Col. 3:20); and wives to their husbands (Eph. 5:22, 24; Col. 3:18; Titus 2:5; 1 Pet. 3:1). Every time the New Testament speaks to the role of wives, the command is the same: “Be subject to your husband.”

We don’t like the idea of submission to authority. But before you react against this command, consider some mitigating factors. First, whenever God grants authority, it is always for the blessing and protection of those under authority and never for the advantage of the ones in authority. God loves people and in His wisdom He has ordained proper authority for the benefit of the human race. If those in government authority use their position to further their own interests at the expense of those under them, they are corrupt and will answer to God, who delegated authority to them. Likewise, any husband who uses his authority in the home to lord it over his family for his own advantage is liable before God for abusing his authority. To be in authority does not mean greater perks, but rather greater responsibility and accountability before God.

Second, it’s important to recognize that husbands are never commanded, “Exercise authority over your wife!” The headship of the husband is stated as a fact, but the commands to submit are always given to the wife. The husband is commanded to love his wife sacrificially. Almost always when couples come for marriage counseling, they are pointing the finger at each other. The wife complains that the husband is unloving and insensitive. He complains that she isn’t submissive and doesn’t meet his needs. But Paul tells husbands (Eph. 5:25), “Love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her.” He tells wives (Eph. 5:22), “Be subject to your own husbands as to the Lord.” When husbands and wives each focus on their God-ordained responsibilities toward each other, there will be harmony, not abuse.

Third, to be in authority does not in any way imply the superiority of the husband or the inferiority of the wife. A wife may in fact be superior in intellect and spiritual maturity to her husband. Paul affirms elsewhere (Gal. 3:28) that she is just as much a member of Christ as her husband is. Peter calls the wife a “fellow-heir of the grace of life” (1 Pet. 3:7). She is in every way equal as a person to her husband. But God has ordained the principle of authority for the orderly functioning of government, the church, and the home. To resist it is to resist God who ordained it (Rom. 13:1-2).

To put oneself under the authority of another does not imply passivity. A submissive wife is not one who meekly goes along with her husband, while keeping her thoughts and feelings to herself. Close relationships are built on truthfulness and openness in a context of love. If a wife withholds her viewpoint or feelings under the guise of submissiveness, she is creating distance in her relationship with her husband.

Also, a submissive wife should properly confront her husband’s sin. When 1 Peter 3:1 says that a wife should win a disobedient husband “without a word” by her godly behavior, it is not prohibiting her from speaking. Peter means that the main emphasis of the wife’s way of changing her husband should be her behavior, not sermons. A disobedient husband will not be won over by a preaching, nagging wife. But that does not mean that in the context of living a godly life, a wife cannot lovingly speak to her husband about his disobedience and how it is damaging their relationship. If a wife does not speak the truth in love, she is not fulfilling her responsibility in the marriage.

True submission is communicated both by attitudes and actions. A wife can be strong and even outspoken and yet be submissive in spirit if she respects her husband and backs his leadership even when she disagrees. Or she can be outwardly submissive but inwardly defiant, using deception and manipulation to get her own way. God doesn’t want grudging compliance, where a wife says, “I’ll submit; but I know you’re wrong and I’ll never let you forget it when it doesn’t work out.” True submission means that after an open sharing of thinking and feelings, with prayer, if there is still a disagreement, a wife yields to her husband’s authority and seeks to help him in his responsibility to lead under God. In our over 44 years of marriage, My wife and I would be hard pressed to come up with a single instance where we haven’t come to mutual agreement.

When a marriage is one of equality in God, trusting the roles He has laid out for us. And the husband and wife respect and accept the gifts each spouse has, then there is more harmony in a marriage.

I usually give two words of advice to marriage couples; 1, be nice, friendly and loving to each other. 2; Speak only kind words to each other. Yelling and accusations, finger pointing and blaming never solves anything.

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Pray for Xonia, she will not accept that she has dementia and needs some help in her day to day life.

Pray for Karla, she’s been married 30 years and her older sister is getting a divorce and the older sister is trying to wreck Karla’s marriage to justify her own situation.

I know of no verse in the Bible that is as concise and obvious in its meaning and yet so controversial and difficult to apply practically as Colossians 3:18. On the surface, it’s pretty simple:

Wives must submit to their husbands as is fitting in the Lord.

If there are no questions, we can all go home now! But the obvious simplicity becomes incredibly complex as you begin to sort it out. For one thing, there are probably thousands of subjective opinions about what a submissive wife is like. A husband once complained to me that his wife wasn’t submissive. I asked him what he thought that meant. He snapped, “When I say, ‘Paint the house black,’ she picks up a brush and starts painting!”

In a similar vein, some think that submission means the total passivity of the wife. The husband makes all the decisions without consulting her or taking her needs and desires into account. He controls the money, determines where the family will live, whether he will take a new job, whether they buy a new car, etc. She passively goes along. I heard of a seminary graduate who came home and without discussing it, announced to his wife that they would be moving across the country where she had no family or friends. He couldn’t understand why she wasn’t excited about this great ministry opportunity for him!

Others think that submission means that the wife should take care of all the household chores—cooking, cleaning, shopping, and dealing with the kids, while the husband works, brings home the paycheck, and watches sports on TV.

On the opposite side, many Christians now embrace “egalitarianism.” They claim that there are no distinctive roles for men and women in marriage or in the church. There should be “mutual submission,” with no one exercising final authority. They argue that the biblical commands for wives to be subject to their husbands were culturally determined. Paul told wives to be subject to their husbands in that male-dominated culture so that the truth of the equality of the sexes would not interfere with the gospel. But now that we live in a more egalitarian age, we should cast off all gender-based role distinctions.

As if the subject were not difficult enough to sort out, we also have widespread wife abuse, which is often blamed on teaching wives to be submissive. One in three women have been the object of some form of physical violence from an intimate partner. One in five women have been victims of severe physical violence by an intimate partner. About one in five instances of domestic violence involves a weapon.

If you think that such abuse is rare in the church, you’re not in touch with reality. The late Chuck Colson told this story on his “Breakpoint” radio program (10/20/09):

A woman I’ll call “Marleen” went to her pastor for help. “My husband is abusing me,” she told him. “Last week he knocked me down and kicked me. He broke one of my ribs.”

Marleen’s pastor was sympathetic. He prayed with Marleen—and then he sent her home. “Try to be more submissive,” he advised. “After all, your husband is your spiritual head.”

Two weeks later, Marleen was dead—killed by an abusive husband. Her church could not believe it. Marleen’s husband was a Sunday school teacher and a deacon. How could he have done such a thing?

Tragically, studies reveal that spousal abuse is just as common within the evangelical churches as anywhere else. This means that about 25 percent of Christian homes witness abuse of some kind.

And the statistics on physical abuse don’t include verbal and emotional abuse. So in light of all these confusing factors, how should we deal with Paul’s admonition to wives to submit to their husbands?

We had a wife in our church of a defrocked pastor. He wouldn’t come to church because he was embarrassed about losing his pastorate. During our very hot South Texas summers, I noticed she had long sleeves on and kept her sunglasses on during church. When I asked about the glasses she said she was having eye problems.

Then she came to church limping and said it was gout.

One Sunday a woman heard her crying in the restroom. The sunglasses were off and both eyes were black. By the grace of God, one of our sweetest, most caring “church grandmothers” finally asked her straight out if her husband was abusing her.

She broke down and showed the women the bruises on her back and sides.

When confronted he denied it. We reported him to Adult Protective Services and he tried to run. He was finally caught and arrested. I think half the church showed up in court to support the wife.

With all the doctor and hospital ER reports and the wife’s sworn deposition, he landed in jail (not long enough). When he got out he tried to get a homeless guy to kill his wife. Turns out the homeless was an undercover cop.

Now the husband is in jail for a sentence of over 50 years. Even with time off for good behavior it is doubtful he’ll get out.

So, ladies, if you are being hurt, physically, emotionally, verbally psychologically, get out and get away, get somewhere safe and start the process legally. Never let the “accidents” go unreported. You didn’t walk into a door or tripped on the stairs. Some churches have safe houses just for women and children. Seek help but get away. it’s never your fault.

If you need help email us at scumlikeuschurch@gmail.com

Pray for women and children that are abuse, pray they get to safety.

Ilene,

October 11, 2018

christ on cross

Well yesterday was about Juan, today I met a brave woman that is a seeker, she was born in Mexico, married the man of her dreams who turned out to be a heroin dealer/user.

The fairy tale marriage quickly turned into a nightmare, after having 3 children, he didn’t want anymore and nor, did he want her to ever bear children again. So he stomped and kick her until breaking her hips and permanently damaging her uterus.

She comes to in the hospital, where he has taken the kids and fled back to Mexico. It takes 15 years before she gets her kids back. Thanks to her new husband a lawyer in International Law. It’s not the law that gets the kids back but his connection.

Reunited with her 3 kids. A new marriage and no drugs. She has been listening to BBN radio (Bible Broadcasting Network) and has become an avid reader of everything I give her. Her spiritual hunger for God is drawing her to read the bible and everyday she has questions about God, Jesus and how to see how everything that has happened in her life brought her to this point.

This weekend she is bring her husband to their first couples bible study and I believe she is just on the cusp of accepting the Lord as Savior.

Pray for Ilene that she will accept Christ and her husband will soon follow.

What a week this has been for meeting new Christians, growing Christians and the spiritually hungry.

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First to Ms. Elliot, yes you can correct my grammar and thanks for your prayers.

Pray for Virginia M. that the Lord will take her home.

Pray for Gwen, very religious but not a Christian, somedays I think she is ready, only to hit a brick wall. Pray that the right people come into her life and not the wrong ones.

the naughty list

October 7, 2018

THE ACTS OF THE SINFUL NATURE

No passage in the Bible draws a clearer contrast between the lifestyle of the Spirit-filled

believer and that of the person controlled by the sinful human nature than Gal 5:16-26.

Paul not only discusses general lifestyle differences by emphasizing that the Spirit and

the sinful nature are at war with each other, but he also includes a specific list of both

the acts of the sinful nature and the fruit of the Spirit.

THE ACTS OF THE SINFUL NATURE. “Sinful nature” (GREEK  sarx) pictures the human

nature with its corrupt desires. The sinful nature remains within Christians after their

conversion and is their deadly enemy (Ro 8:6-8,13; Gal 5:17,21). Those who practice the

acts of the sinful nature cannot inherit God’s kingdom (Gal 5:21). Therefore, this sinful

nature must be resisted and put to death in a continual warfare that the believer wages

through the power of the Holy Spirit (Ro 8:4-14; see Gal 5:17, note). The acts of the

sinful nature (Gal 5:19-21) include:

(1) “Sexual immorality” (GREEK  porneia), i.e., immoral sexual conduct and intercourse; it

includes taking pleasure in pornographic pictures, films or writings (cf. Lx 20:14; Mt

5:31-32; 19:9; Ac 15:20,29; 21:25; lCo 5:1);

(2) “Impurity” (Gk akatharsia), i.e., sexual sins, evil deeds and vices, including

thoughts and desires of the heart (Eph 5:3; Col 3:5);

(3) “Debauchery” (GREEK aselgeia), i.e., sensuality; following one’s passions and desires

to the point of having no shame or public decency (2Co 12:21);

(4) “Idolatry” (GREEK eidololatria) , i.e., worship of spirits, persons or graven images; trust

in any person, institution or thing as having equal or greater authority than God and his

Word (Col 3:5);

(5) “Witchcraft” (GREEK pharmakela), i.e., sorcery, spiritism, black magic, worship of

demons and use of drugs to produce “spiritual” experiences (Lx 7:11,22; 8:18; Rev 9:21;

18:23);

(6) “Hatred” (Gk echthra) , i.e., intense, hostile intentions and acts; extreme dislike or

enmity;

(7) “Discord” (Gk ens), i.e., quarreling, antagonism; a struggle for superiority (Ro

1:29; lCo 1:11; 3:3);

(8) “Jealousy” (Gk zelos), i.e., resentfulness, envy of another’s sllr.cess (Ro 13:13; lCo

3:3);

(9) “Fits of rage” (GREEK thumos), i.e., explosive anger that flames into violent words or

deeds (Col 3:8);

(10) “Selfish ambition” (Gk eritheia) , i.e., seeking of power (2Co 12:20; Php 1:16-17);

(11) “Dissensions” (GREEK dichostasia), i.e., introducing divisive teachings not supported

by God’s Word (Ro 16:17);

(12) “Factions” (GREEK hairesis) , i.e., division within the congregation into selfish groups

or cliques that destroy the unity of the church (iCo 11:19);

(13) “Envy” (Gkphthonos), i.e., resentful dislike of another person who has something

that one desires;

(14) “Drunkenness” (GREEK methel, i.e., impairing one’s mental or physical control by

alcoholic drink;

(15) “Orgies” (GREEK komos), i.e., excessive feasting and revelry; a party spirit involving

alcohol, drugs, sex, or the like.

Just how dark is humanity, well, you’ve read the list, we can be carnal, or we can be spiritual. In my sex addict counseling group, I don’t think I can be surprised and then I hear something that is beyond my imagination. It’s a good thing I have a great poker face. What is more surprising is that fact that these are supposed to be Christian people coming to me for counseling.

The most confrontational moment in counseling was when I told a man I didn’t believe he was a Christian. Not because of the magnitude of what he was doing, but by the fact that there was no pause button, no gaps, it was habitual sinning. This was a deacon, the song leader, the largest gift giver (offerings) in church.

It would take to long to tell the whole story. He stepped down from his church duties, confessed to his pastor his wrong doings, he looked repentant. That was until he called me from jail arrested for solicitation of a prostitute.

So here’s my warning. If you are fighting and struggling with a sexual sin I will give you the benefit of doubt. But if you are indulging and only sorry you got caught, then I say “liar” you are lying to me and to God.

So this may be the last waring God gives you.

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Freedom yet bondage

October 3, 2018

  “The law is not of faith” (Gal. 3:12).

  The law will break you; grace will make you.

 Nothing can be more sure than the steps of one guided by the Spirit of God and the Word of God, and yet nothing more complicated than to have to walk in ‘separation’ from all that exists around. It is indeed difficult to have to wind one’s way through things so perplexing and so complex as the religious systems of our own day. We have to avoid on the one hand organizations formed in imitation of things past (the legalistic church), and on the other systems more characterized by anticipation of things future (Kingdom-law and standing on principles only meant for the millennial period).

With many Christians, it may be almost thought that the Lord Jesus was but the introduction to Moses. That His death procured the payment of sin’s debt, so that the debt being paid, the believer might be in a position to keep the law, and that, accordingly, the law, and not the ‘Spirit of life in Christ Jesus,’ might be the believer’s rule of life.(you know the type of church, that everything is a sin and there is no grace, if you fall you move to another church).

 The walk of the believer should ever be the natural result of realized privilege, and not the constrained result of legal vows and resolutions—the proper fruit of a position known and enjoyed by faith, and not the result of one’s own efforts to reach a position ‘by works of law.’ All true believers are a part of the Bride of Christ; hence, they owe Him those affections which become that relation. The relationship is not obtained because of the affections, but the affections flow out of the relationship.

  “For I, through the law, am dead to the law, that I might live unto God” (Gal. 2:19

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Pray for Sherrie, she is playing at church, she knows all the lingo, but she is not even pretending outside of church. Pray she would feel the need to live a pleasing life to the Lord. The problem is she has been playing church for so long she doesn’t remember all the great things the Lord has done in her life.

Thanks for all the prayer for me, I’m feeling much better.

Pray for Randal, a bad case of gout.

Pray for Veronica, another church bad girl. She plays fast and loose on Friday and Saturday, but Sunday is the model of a proper Christian. The problem is her teen girls are now following in her footsteps.

Pray for our youth, that they will discover the bible is relevant.

(WELL I’M DOWN WITH THE CRUD, SO I REPOSTING MY PERSONAL FAVORITE DEVOTION)

SO WHO’S WITH ME, YOU WANT TO GROW UP AND BE A POTATO CHIP.

BETTER LET ME EXPLAIN, LAYS POTATO CHIPS THEY HAVE ONE THAT’S LABELED, ‘LIGHTLY SALTED; IN A WEIRD WAY IF YOU THINK ABOUT IT THAT EXPLAINS THE FOUR GOSPELS AND THE BOOK OF ACTS (NOT COMPLETELY BUT ALMOST).

GOD IS LIGHT, HIS SON IS LIGHT, AND WE ARE CALLED TO BE LIGHT. IN THE GOSPEL OF JOHN IT SAYS THAT DARKNESS (EVIL, THE DEVIL) CANNOT OVERCOME THE LIGHT OR EVEN UNDERSTAND IT. THAT’S HOW POWERFUL LIGHT IS.

SO WE ARE CALLED TO LIGHT.

WE ARE ALSO CALLED TO BE SALT

THE GOSPEL OF MATTHEW 5:13 SAYS WE ARE TO BE THE SALT OF THE EARTH. WE ARE TO BRING FLAVOR AND BE A PRESERVATIVE TO THE WORLD. BUT IF THE SALT LOSES ITS FLAVOR IT IS NO GOOD; AND THERE IS THE PROBLEM.

FOUR THINGS WE ARE SUPPOSED TO DO AS CHRISTIANS.ONE, BE LIGHT, TWO BE SALT, THREE BE CHRIST LIKE, AND FOUR BE MATURE.

WE CAN’T LEAVE ONE PART OUT, WE ARE TO SHINE IN DARKNESS AND LET THE WORLD KNOW A RESURRECTED CHRIST; WE ARE TO HAVE AN INFLUENCE IN THE WORLD THAT ACTUALLY STOPS OR RETARDS THE PEOPLE AND THEIR SINS (CONVICTION AND THAT GOD LOVES THEM). BE CHRIST LIKE IN ALL WE DO SO THE LIGHT SHINES FROM US. AND GROW UP SO WE CAN GROW OUT.

SO HERE’S MY PROPOSITION, SPEAKING JUST ABOUT AMERICA, WE HAVE PRETTY MUCH FAILED IN EVANGELISM, WITNESSING AND SPREADING THE HOPE OF GOD. SO EVERYTHING THAT IS WRONG IN OUR COUNTRY IS PRETTY MUCH THE CHURCHES FAULT AND OF COURSE THE SINFULNESS OF MAN.

ONE WE HAVE NO CONTROL OVER, THE OTHER WE DO. DON’T BLAME THE GOVERNMENT, OR POLITICIANS, THE QUESTION WE HAVE TO ASK IS ‘HAVE OUR LIGHTS GONE OUT AND IS THE SALT GONE FROM OUR LIVES.

HOW MANY FAMOUS TV AND BOOK PASTORS ARE SAYING THE BIBLE ISN’T HISTORICALLY RELEVANT, IT HAS NO PLACE IN THE PLACE OF MODERN MAN. HOW ABOUT ALL THE CHURCHES THAT HAVE ONE GOAL ON SUNDAY, TO MAKE YOU FEEL HAPPY AND GOOD ABOUT YOUR SELF (BIG NEWS FLASH, GOD DOESN’T ACTUALLY CARE IF YOUR HAPPY).

THERE IS A WELL KNOWN PASTOR NEAR HERE THAT TOLD ME HE HASN’T PREACHED A MESSAGE ABOUT SIN IN OVER 15 YEARS AND WOULDN’T BECAUSE HE THINKS THAT MESSAGE WOULD DRIVE THE CROWDS AWAY.

ASK YOUR SELF ‘WHY DO I GO TO CHURCH?’ HOW LONG HAS IT BEEN SINCE YOU’VE WITNESSED TO SOMEONE, OR TRIED TO HOLD A BROTHER OR SISTER ACCOUNTABLE FOR SOMETHING THEY ARE HAVING A PROBLEM WITH.

BE BIG

BE BOLD

BE BRAVE

SO TODAY WILL YOU RENEW YOUR VOW TO BE A POTATO CHIP, VOTE YES.

GOD BLESS FROM SCUMLIKEUSCHURCH@GMAIL.COM

KEEP ME IN PRAYER, I’M NOT A GOOD PATIENT

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September 23, 2018

The Christian doctrine of immortality cannot be understood apart from the right conception of the tripartite nature of men. Many think that man is a physical being only. There is a great danger of any man thinking thus of himself. In his desire to satisfy the needs of the body there is the tendency on man’s part to lose sight of the fact that he is immortal. There have been persons who have lived all of their lives either in ignorance or willful neglect of a life after death, but upon their death-bed they suddenly realized that they were more than physical beings.

I’m not a body with a spirit, I’m a spirit with a body. Think about that. (actually that’s a half truth and we will develop the whole idea) but the idea is the spiritual component of ourselves is more important than the physical component.

There is an idea also that prevails largely today that man consists of only two component parts: namely, body and spirit. In the thinking of the writer this view appears to be one that might create confusion in the minds of any Christians. While soul and spirit are so closely related that it is sometimes difficult to distinguish accurately between them, there seems to be only one logical conclusion: namely, that “soul” and “spirit” are not the same. The Bible does make a distinction.

Man is a triune being because he is created in the image of God. “God said, Let us make man in Our image” (Genesis 1:26). We know that God is a Trinity. The Holy Trinity is clearly set forth in the Apostle Paul’s benediction that closed his Second Corinthian Epistle: “The grace of the Lord Jesus Christ, and the love of God, and the communion of the Holy Ghost, be with you all. Amen” (2 Corinthians 13:14). Our Lord Himself said, in what we call “The Great Commission”: “Go ye therefore, and teach all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Ghost” (Matthew 28:19). Created in the image of God, man is likewise a trinity. He has a spiritual nature that is separate and distinct from the body in which it dwells.

The two following passages from the Bible clearly establish the fact that man is a triune being composed of spirit, soul, and body:

I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ (1 Thessalonians 5:23).

For the word of God is quick, and powerful, and sharper than any two edged sword, piercing even to the dividing asunder of soul and spirit, and of the joints and marrow (body), and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart (Hebrews 4:12).

The threefold nature of man might be illustrated in several ways. Dr. Clarence Larkin uses three circles (Rightly Dividing The Word, page 86). The outer circle stands for the body of man, the middle circle for the soul, and the inner for the spirit. At this point it will be well to quote a portion from Dr. Larkin’s book:

In the outer circle the ‘Body’ is shown as touching the Material world through the five senses of ‘Sight,’ ‘Smell,’ ‘Hearing,’ ‘Taste’ and ‘Touch.’

The Gates to the ‘Soul’ are ‘Imagination,’ ‘Conscience,’ ‘Memory,’ ‘Reason’ and the ‘Affections.’

The “Spirit” receives impressions of outward and material things through the soul. The spiritual faculties of the ‘Spirit’ are ‘Faith,’ ‘Hope,’ ‘Reverence,’ ‘Prayer’ and ‘Worship.’

In his unfallen state the ‘Spirit’ of man was illuminated from Heaven, but when the human race fell in Adam, sin closed the window of the Spirit, pulled down the curtain, and the chamber of the spirit became a death chamber and remains so in every unregenerate heart, until the Life and Light giving power of the Holy Spirit floods that chamber with the Life and Light giving power of the new life in Christ Jesus.

Well we are going to stop right there for now.

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Please remember April and Makala in your prayers. Life has been tough for them and they need a lot of prayer and help. Pray they accept counseling and not self-destruct.