TOUGH LOVE

November 18, 2017

Romans 8:15 For you did not receive the spirit of slavery to fall back into fear, but you have received the Spirit of adoption as sons, by whom we cry, “Abba! Father!”

Among the Greeks and Romans, when a man had no son, he was permitted to adopt one even though not related. He might, if he chose, adopt one of his slaves as a son. The adopted son took the name of the father, and was in every respect regarded and treated as a son. Among the Romans there were two parts to the act of adoption: one a private arrangement between the parties, and the other a formal public declaration of the fact. It is thought by some that the former is referred to in this verse, and the latter in verse 23, where the apostle speaks of “waiting for the adoption.” The servant has been adopted privately, but he is waiting for a formal public declaration of the fact.

‎After adoption, the son, no longer a slave, had the privilege of addressing his former master by the title of “father.” …

Freeman, J. M., & Chadwick, H. J. (1998). Manners & customs of the Bible (537–538). North Brunswick, NJ: Bridge-Logos Publishers.

Although I was never adopted, I was raised most of my life by my grandfather; he was a man of few words. He never said ‘I love you’ but I know he did; he rarely laughed unless it was watching ‘Hee Haw’; and I never saw him cry, not even when he was dying of cancer.

But he taught me several important lessons, how to hunt, how to skin game and eat it, how to trap and fish; more importantly how to work, be honest, go the second mile, and work more.

Even though I was a wild child, he never scolded, he figured I was just going through a spell. In my teens I often ran away, he never came looking but the door was always unlocked. Drugs, drinking, motorcycle gangs, problems with the law, he never paid bail, but he was always there to drive me home when I got out.

We could ride for miles and never say a word, we just shared cigarettes or pipe tobacco. His favorite picture of me was clean shaven and with short hair and in the military, before than I had hair down to my shoulders and a beard that was about 8 inches long.

The first time I got shot, all he said when I got home was; “hurt didn’t it” now he wasn’t being cruel or nasty he just didn’t say much.

But there was one time I wished he had beat me to a pulp, kicked me and cut me rather than say what he did.

I was in the military during Vietnam, and the first time I came home on leave I was full of piss and vinegar. A buddy of mine picked me up at the airport and we went out drinking and smoking dope. I didn’t get home until about 3 in the morning and there he was waiting for me on the front porch. My buddy bailed and let me tell you it was a long walk up that driveway.

As I approached my grandfather I knew that I have never seen him angrier, a cigarette dangled from his lip and his fists were balled up tight. My plan was just to step on by him and get into the house. I never saw it coming the first and only time I’ve been knocked out by one punch. Between the alcohol and the punch I was out longer than I expected because when I looked up he was using my chest as an astray.

I stood up and he said something to me that stung worse than the punch; “you are a big disappointment.” See I had a wife and she was pregnant with our first child and rather than come home on leave and be with her I went out partying, never thought about how much she missed me and needed me.

He went on to say; “she’s been up all night crying, thinking you don’t love her, I swear to God if anything happens to her or that baby I will shoot you dead.”

Probably one of the longest sentences I’ve ever heard him speak.

I went in and asked my wife to forgive me and she fell asleep in my arms crying, asking me if I still loved her, “yes I said I’m just stupid.”

Early next morning I woke up the sound of pork chops frying and eggs and toast and coffee. Everyone was up and setting at the breakfast table. I looked at my grandfather and he asked me for a smoke.

I said, “Pop, what you said last night hurt worse than the punch, it will never happen again I promise.”

He didn’t say anything he just stepped out to the porch and I followed him out. We sat down and lit up our cigarettes, I told him again it would never happen again.

His response, “some lessons are harder to learn than others, just don’t repeat this one.”

I miss him more than I can say, he was such a powerful force in my life and taught me a lot, I’ve been married 43years to the same woman and I’ve never done anything quite that stupid again.

Years after he died my grandmother told me how much Pop loved me and told me how they would lie in bed and he would tell her that I was his son, the one he never really had and he prayed that we would all get through my craziness.

So to those that have more than one dad, or mom sometimes they love you more than you know. So try not to put them through hell, they are doing the best they can and you are blessed to adopted both by them and by God.

ok, bible give away, try not to use google; the bible and the book of Isaiah have one thing in common, what is it.

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Ok, I’m not sure I’ve ever endorsed a book before, I’ve certainly recommend some. And those on the inner circle know I have a thing about not reading living authors.

But if you are a parent you need to read this book “The Vanishing American Adult” by Senator Sasse. So here is the excerpt from Amazon about the book.

THE INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER

In an era of safe spaces, trigger warnings, and an unprecedented election, the country’s youth are in crisis. Senator Ben Sasse warns the nation about the existential threat to America’s future.

Raised by well-meaning but overprotective parents and coddled by well-meaning but misbegotten government programs, America’s youth are ill-equipped to survive in our highly-competitive global economy.

Many of the coming-of-age rituals that have defined the American experience since the Founding: learning the value of working with your hands, leaving home to start a family, becoming economically self-reliant―are being delayed or skipped altogether. The statistics are daunting: 30% of college students drop out after the first year, and only 4 in 10 graduate. One in three 18-to-34 year-olds live with their parents.

From these disparate phenomena: Nebraska Senator Ben Sasse who as president of a Midwestern college observed the trials of this generation up close, sees an existential threat to the American way of life.

In The Vanishing American Adult, Sasse diagnoses the causes of a generation that can’t grow up and offers a path for raising children to become active and engaged citizens. He identifies core formative experiences that all young people should pursue: hard work to appreciate the benefits of labor, travel to understand deprivation and want, the power of reading, the importance of nurturing your body―and explains how parents can encourage them.

Our democracy depends on responsible, contributing adults to function properly―without them America falls prey to populist demagogues. A call to arms, you want to know why college age kids vote Democrat, they want the government to parent them.The Vanishing American Adult will ignite a much-needed debate about the link between the way we’re raising our children and the future of our country.

So let me give you some personal examples from my own experiences and some friends. I worked for one of the largest businesses in the world and in our particular department we only hired people over 50 years of age. No one else younger would last more than a month, some quit in a one week period.

A good friend of mine recorded his Texas Big Bend spring break trip with his math high school kids. The video is hysterical because they get off the bus in Big Bend and there is no cell phone reception. The kids just stand there with their cell phones up in the air frozen because they can’t get a signal. He has to blow a whistle to get their attention and then show them how to get their luggage and how to do everything to survive their camping trip. On one trip the park rangers had to evac a girl because she couldn’t text and had a tantrum/seizure so scary they were afraid she would hurt herself. As soon as the hit a cell zone she calmed down.

We’ve tried to tell employees no cell phones while working the showroom. We tell them we have video cameras and they will lose their jobs if they are on their phone. You guessed it “fired”.

You know the best part, then the parents come in screaming and yelling because you traumatized their little snowflake.

Here’s one for you, good friend of mine has coached little league for over 30 years, not any more, when he called a kid out, the kid’s father came up from behind and hit him in the neck with a baseball bat. 50k dollars later and 10 months lost in labor. He finally won the court case and damages because the parents later changed their statement and made it a race suit. Funny thing is my pal is American Indian and was told he couldn’t bring that up in court to defend himself.

Or how about the high school kids that were supposed to change the letters on their High School sign and didn’t do it because it was to hot. You know how many kids showed up for school that didn’t have to.

Oh, wait, one more, there tore down a school, rebuilt is 4 miles away and the parents still dropped their kids off at an empty lot, drove off and left their little tykes there.

So you get my point, I’m not being negative, I’m trying to sound an alarm. We can’t let teens raise teens, peers raising peers. We can’t let kids raise kids.

So here’s step one, no kid gets a cell phone until he/she is 16 and driving and working the summers.

Hey don’t stone me, both my kids are millionaires. You know why? They were raised and birthed into adulthood.

Ok, I’ve got to quit, my blood pressure is zooming.

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Pray for Candy, she is 37 and just got a promotion that means she has to move. She’s a brave woman, and she’s going to leave her home town of 37 years. But she really wants our prayers

Pray for Randall, he is having knee surgery.

Pray for the Tomasini family, their 7 year old has Leukemia, Jason is one tough, brave booger, (that’s his family pet name, long story).

Pray for Raysene, she is having back surgery on next Monday.

Housekeeping, prayers and comments, questions and such to the email address. And If I remember, Saturday will be our bible quiz and our bible give away. I’ve lost track of how many bibles we’ve given. This will be the NIV Study Bible.

 

really faith based

November 12, 2017

WHAT FAITH BASED REALLY MEANS

  Let him ask in faith and have no doubts; for he who has doubts is like the surge of the sea, driven by the wind and tossed into spray. A person of that sort must not expect to receive anything from the Lord—such a one is a man of two minds, undecided in every step he takes” (James 1:6–8).

  First, we are to rest in the fact that our Father has made full provision for all our needs; positionally, we are complete in the Lord Jesus Christ. Then it is that we can trust Him daily for His “exceeding abundantly above.” “But my God shall supply all your need according to His riches in glory by Christ Jesus” (Phil. 4:19)

  “It is true that all God requires of us we lack; but it is also true that all we need He supplies. The believer can give thanks that God has supplied all his need as to standing, and He engages to supply all his need as to walk. But while we see our Father’s requirement, and recognize His provision, let us not overlook our responsibility.

When we fail it is to this our failure may be traced. It is not because the provision has been insufficient, or unavailable, or afar off—but because the channel has been obstructed, the avenues of the soul have been closed, so that the need has remained unsupplied. Our responsibility lies in the exercise of faith.

I will not think of the infinities of my need, except to lead me to the divine simplicity of the infinity of His supply.

  “And this is the confidence that we have in Him, that, if we ask any thing according to His will, He heareth us; and if we know that He hear us, whatever we ask, we know that we have the petitions that we desired of Him” (1 John 5:14, 15)

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Remember Laurie R. in prayer, 9 years old and just diagnosed with cancer

Pray for Loid L. crippling arthritis, she usually is flying all over the country, at 73, now she can barely walk.

Praise for Jerome, a year ago he started out in counseling, he’s now been drug free, violence free and he is off parole and tomorrow we do his wedding, or re-wedding. His wife has been in counseling also and they are going to get hitched again.

Pray for Lisa, her 5 year old marriage is in trouble and they are both spiraling out of control in their behavior. Right now we just want her self-destructive behavior you end.

FIX IT OR LOSE IT

October 2, 2017

SORRY GIRLS THIS IS JUST FOR MEN; ALTHOUGH YOU MAY WANT TO PASS IT ON.

WOMEN MAY HAVE A HARD TIME UNDERSTANDING THIS BUT YOU MAY KNOW SOMEONE IN THIS SITUATION. I’M NOT MAKING EXCUSES BUT THIS IS REALLY MOSTLY A GUY THING; AND I HELP THIS HOPES SOME GUY OUT THERE.

BECAUSE I GREW UP TO BE A VERY VIOLENT PERSON I BECAME THE GUY THAT WAS ALWAYS GETTING IN FIGHTS ALWAYS STARTED THEM AND PRETTY MUCH ENDED THEM, I THOUGHT VIOLENCE WAS THE ANSWER TO PRETTY MUCH EVERYTHING; I MEAN SCREW DÉTENTE.

NOW I WAS NEVER PHYSICALLY VIOLENT WITH MY FAMILY BUT I ALL TO FREQUENTLY SCARED THEM WITH MY RAGE AND VERBAL OUTBURSTS. EVEN AFTER ACCEPTING JESUS AS MY SAVIOR SOMETIMES THE ANIMAL JUST CAME OUT. I’M NOT PROUD OF WHAT HAPPENED BUT I DID GET A HANDLE ON IT, AND I WANT TO SHARE WITH ANY ONE THAT IS STRUGGLING WITH RAGE, ESPECIALLY IN A FAMILY SETTING TO HELP YOU GET OVER IT.

NOW DON’T DISMISS THIS AS TO SIMPLISTIC BUT IT REALLY CAN HELP. I READ THIS STORY IN READERS DIGEST ABOUT 40 YEARS AGO AND IT WAS A LIGHT BULB MOMENT.

A PLUMBER GOES TO A LADY’S HOUSE TO DO SOME WORK AND ABOUT EVERYTHING THAT CAN GO WRONG DOES, BUT HE DOESN’T LOSE HIS COOL. BUT WHEN LEAVES THE HOUSE TO GO HOME HE LEAVES A WRENCH THERE. THE WOMAN OF THE HOUSE REALIZES THAT HE MIGHT NEED IT AND FOLLOWS HIM HOME TO GIVE HIM THIS WRENCH.

WHEN HE GETS TO HIS HOUSE BEFORE SHE CAN GET OUT OF THE CAR SHE SEES HIM GO UP TO A TREE IN HIS YARD AND HE STARTS PULLING INVISIBLE THINGS OUT OF HIS POCKET AND TIES THEM TO THE TREE; AND SHE’S THINKING ‘GREAT I’VE JUST HAD A PSYCHO IN MY HOUSE’.

THEN HE GOES TO HOUSE KIND OF GIVES HIMSELF A SHAKE LIKE A DOG DOES AND GOES IN THE HOUSE.

WELL SHE’S FASCINATED AND HAS TO KNOW WHAT’S GOING ON SO SHE GOES TO THE HOUSE WITH THE WRENCH AND RINGS THE DOORBELL. THE PLUMBER ANSWERS THE DOOR WITH A BIG SMILE AND SHE CAN HEAR CHILDREN LAUGHING AND SMELLS DINNER COOKING AND SHE HOLDS UP THE WRENCH.

(WHICH HE IMMEDIATELY TAKES AND KILLS HER DEAD; SORRY JUST KIDDING, SEE WHY YOU HAVE TO KEEP PRAYING FOR ME.)

SHE JUST HAS TO KNOW WHAT WAS THE DEAL WITH TYING INVISIBLE THINGS TO THE TREE OUTSIDE, SO SHE ASKS HIM. HE GRINS RATHER SHEEPISHLY AND STEPS OUTSIDE AND WALKS OVER TO THE TREE, AND HE SAYS; “I TIE TO THE TREE EVERYTHING THAT WENT WRONG TODAY, EVERYTHING THAT BROKE, DIDN’T GOES AS PLANNED, MY ANGER MY FRUSTRATION AND I TIE IT THERE SO I DON’T TAKE IT IN THE HOUSE WITH ME.” AND SHE ASKS “WHAT ABOUT THE SHAKE YOU DID ON THE DOORSTEP.” HE SMILES AND SAYS I’M JUST MAKING SURE NOTHING BAD IS COMING IN THE HOUSE WITH ME AND I TELL MY SELF I LOVE MY FAMILY.”

NOW IF YOU ARE SERIOUSLY SCREWED UP AND THINK THIS IS TO SIMPLISTIC SCREW YOU IT WORKS.

BUT FOR YOU DIE HARD VIOLENT PSYCHOPATHS THAT ARE DIE HARD SKEPTICS I HAVE PART TWO.

I TOLD MY WIFE THAT WHEN I GET HOME I NEEDED 20 MINUTES ALONE TIME TO READJUST TO A ROLE CHANGE. SO I WOULD STAY IN THE GARAGE AND THE KIDS WERE TOLD NOT TO COME OUT AND BOTHER ME; AND IN THAT 20 MINUTES I WOULD PRAY; “GOD DON’T LET A MONSTER WALK THROUGH THAT DOOR, THESE PEOPLE LOVE YOU AND CARE FOR YOU; YOU CAN’T BE MEAN, OR SCARY OR ROUGH OR MEAN SPIRITED BECAUSE YOU LOVE THEM. DON’T BE AN A$$HOLE, WALK IN THERE AND BE A GODLY, LOVING CARING MAN.”

AND THERE IS A PART THREE; “CUES” ONE REASON I GOT MAD WAS I HAD A SCENARIO IN MY MIND OF WHAT WOULD HAPPEN WHEN I GOT HOME, MY EXPECTATIONS; PROBLEM WAS I NEVER TOLD ANYONE WHAT THOSE EXPECTATIONS WERE. I WANTED MY WIFE TO KISS ME AND TELL ME SHE MISSED ME (I TRAVEL A LOT DOING SEMINARS) I WANTED THE KIDS TO STOP WHAT EVER THEY WERE DOING AND JUST HUG ME FOR A SECOND, THAT’S ALL, JUST THAT LITTLE BIT.

YOU KNOW WHAT? IT WORKED, I WOULD WALK IN THE HOUSE SAYING MY LITTLE MANTRA; “YOU LOVE THESE PEOPLE DON’T SCARE THEM.” AND THEY WOULD TAKE THE 5 SECONDS JUST TO GIVE ME WHAT I NEEDED, CRAVED FROM THEM A MOMENT OF LOVE AND IT WOULD ALL WORK OUT.

SO IF YOU ARE A SCARY DAD, HUSBAND, FATHER, PLEASE WORK IT OUT, GIVE THIS A TRY.

DON’T BE SCARY

AND N0W THE GOOD NEWS, I’M NOT SURE HOW LONG WE HAD TO HAVE THESE LITTLE RITUALS, A FEW YEARS MAYBE, BUT IT ALL PASSED. YOU CAN BE A CHRISTIAN MAN AND STILL HAVE SOME SERIOUS ISSUES, ONE; GET COUNSELING FROM SOMEONE YOU RESPECT, TWO; BE ACCOUNTABLE, THREE; DON’T IGNORE THE WARNING SYMBOLS (YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN). AND REST ASSURED IT DOES PASS AND YOU BECOME SOMEWHAT NORMAL. (TILL DEMENTIA SETS IN AND YOU BECOME A RAVING LUNATIC AGAIN, OH, DID I TELL YOU I’M WORKING ON BEING MORE POSITIVE?)

BUT IT WON’T GET FIXED ON ITS ON, THERE IS NO CHRISTIAN MAGIC, FIX IT.

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Yes, You Can

September 12, 2017

It goes without saying that unbelievers pounce all over Christian hypocrisy and judgment. A Hindu professor once found out that a man in his class was a Christian. The professor said to this student, “If you Christians were like Jesus Christ, India would be at your feet tomorrow.” A learned Muslim who recently became a Christian said, “If Christians were truly Christians—like Christ—there would be no Islam.” A USA Today poll shows 72% of unchurched Americans agree that a God exists, but the same percentage says “the church is full of hypocrites.” 44% say Christians get on their nerves. People flat-out don’t like Christians. Yet, when is the last time you heard someone say, “Man, Jews, Muslims, or Buddhists get on my nerves!” It doesn’t happen, does it? People show respect and honor to these religions. Now it’s easy to object, “This just isn’t fair. The media has turned Christians into cultural punching bags.” Yet, we must ask, “Have we brought some of this pain upon ourselves?” If we’re honest and humble, we would probably have to say, “Yes, guilty as charged.” Just stop and think for a moment. Are you notorious for criticizing the media? Politicians? Your teachers? Your pastors? Your boss? Your coworkers? Your neighbors? Your friends? Seriously, can you even watch a football game without being critical of the quarterback, the coach, or the referee? Most Christians are critical. Some are even bold enough to boast that their spiritual gift is criticism. Yet Jesus says, “Be slow to judge others and quick to judge yourself.” In Matthew 7:1–12, Jesus gives two exhortations dealing with judicious judgment.

  1. Judge with humility not superiority (7:1–5). In this first section, Jesus clarifies how you should relate to other believers in the matter of judgment. In 7:1, Jesus tells you what you shouldn’t do: “Do not judge.” No sentence in the Bible is more familiar, more misunderstood, and more misapplied than Matt 7:1. Therefore, we must first determine what this verse doesn’t mean. “Do not judge” doesn’t mean you can’t say anything critical or pointed to another person. In this context, Jesus Himself alludes to certain people as dogs and pigs (7:6). He also warns His disciples, “Beware of the false prophets, who come to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly are ravenous wolves” (7:15). In both of these examples, Jesus makes a judgment about various individuals. Later in Matthew’s gospel, Jesus requires His disciples to confront believers who are in sin (18:15–17). Furthermore, the New Testament is clear that Christians are to judge both error and sin. So despite what many people believe, the ideal Christian is not an undiscerning, all-accepting jellyfish who lives out the misinterpretation of “judge not.” Christians can and should judge.

So what does this verse mean? First, you are not to pass final judgment on any person. Final judgment belongs to the Lord. You are not in the condemning business. If anyone needs to be condemned, God Himself can take care of that. You should have no part in it. This is why curses like “God damn you” or “Go to hell” are so wicked! The one who utters these curses is attempting to play God! Second, you are not to judge the motives of others. The Bible says, “Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart” (1 Sam 16:7). Often we are quick to come to negative conclusions about others based on why we think they did something. But try as we might, we see only the outside. God alone sees the heart. What Christ means when He says “Do not judge” is that we are to refrain from hypercritical, condemning judgment. There is a universe of difference between being discerningly critical and hypercritical. A discerning spirit is constructive; a hypercritical spirit is destructive. All of this means you can judge what people do; you cannot judge why they do it. You can judge what people say; you cannot judge why they say it.

In 7:1b–2, Jesus tells you what God will do. He says the reason that you shouldn’t judge is “so that you will not be judged. For in the way you judge, you will be judged; and by your standard of measure, it will be measured to you.” When Jesus says “Do not judge so that you will not be judged,” He uses a future passive verb. He is referring to being judged at the judgment seat of Christ. In other words, God will use the same basic standard you use to evaluate others when He evaluates you! In Matt 5:7 Jesus says, “Blessed are the merciful for they will receive mercy.” If you are gracious in your dealings with other people’s failures and shortcomings now, you will receive mercy in the future when the Lord evaluates your life. As the old saying goes, “People who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones.” The longer I am in pastoral ministry, the greater my empathy for the struggles of my pastoral colleagues. The longer I walk with Christ, the more I empathize with my fellow believers. The longer I am married and strive to raise a family, the more I can empathize with other couples and parents. It is hard to be who you want to be, isn’t it? I want to grant grace and extend mercy to others. I want to believe the best and be kind. But when necessary I want to love brothers and sisters enough to call them on sin.

In 7:3–5, Jesus tells you what you should do. He uses an illustration that comes from His background as a carpenter’s son (13:55). He puts it like this: “Why do you look at the speck that is in your brother’s eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ and behold, the log is in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye.” Undoubtedly, Jesus didn’t say this with a straight face. He must have been smiling and giggling as He said this. Visualize a man with a plank in his eye walking through the lobby of the church trying to find a person with a speck of sawdust in his eye that he might remove it! But the very image of such a man looking into a mirror but unable to see the plank in his eye because he is blinded by the plank is funny indeed. Again, Jesus did not say that Christians are not to judge under any circumstances. His warning was against hypocritical judgment—someone with a “log” in his eye passing judgment on someone with a “speck” in his eye (7:3). He was warning disciples not to make the mistake of the Pharisees! Jesus’ concern was making sure that we are qualified to judge. This is why He said, “First take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother’s eye” (7:5). Thus, believers are to judge error and sin, but in a gracious and non-judgmental fashion.

We naturally tend to exaggerate. We often inflate the faults of others while at the same time underestimating our own. You could say we are perfectionists when it comes to other people, but extremely tolerant when it comes to ourselves. We find it so easy to turn a microscope on another person’s sin while we look at ours through the wrong end of a telescope! Yet, when we let Jesus convict us of our sin, we will be able to judge others with humility, sensitivity, and compassion.

Have you ever had someone attempt to help you remove something from your eye? If so, you can readily understand the amount of gentleness and tenderness that’s required. The eye is very sensitive. It takes a compassionate hand and a delicate touch to do surgery in the eye. When you have eye trouble, you need a doctor who knows what he is doing because even the slightest mistake can have catastrophic consequences. In the same way, when we minister to one another in the Christian community, we must do so only after careful introspection to make sure our own motives are pure. Then we can proceed with appropriate care and humility. Sometimes in our haste to help others, we can cause more damage than the original speck of dirt caused. This doesn’t mean you must be perfect before you can correct another Christian. However, Jesus’ words do require you to have dealt as decisively as possible with any obvious areas of disobedience in your own life before you attempt to correct someone else. Otherwise, it is as if you are attempting to perform surgery blindfolded. In that situation, neither the patient nor the doctor feels confident! Moreover, if you are committing the same sin, the judgment you pass on someone else boomerangs on you. And you definitely don’t want that! Remember, be slow to judge others and quick to judge yourself.

There are a number of ways you can lovingly confront a person.

  1. Make sure your own heart is right with God before you confront someone.

  1. Pray for the person that needs to be confronted.

  1. Set up a time with the person to talk, in private without interruption, but don’t put it off.

  1. When the occasion calls for it, confront immediately.

  1. Don’t take out your own anger on someone.

  1. Begin with a word of encouragement.

  1. Ask the person, “If I could share something with you that would help you, would you want me to?”

  1. State the issue as you see it. Give your perspective on the issue. Say, “This is the way I see it, please help me to understand.” Admit that maybe you misunderstood or got the wrong perspective.

  1. Ask how you can help the person.

  1. Be confidential.

  1. Pray for the person.

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Just Do It!

Sometimes I have people ask me, “how can I be a better Christian?”

They’re always surprised when I ask them questions about obedience. I know we are going to have problems when they say things like; “I didn’t know religion was so legalistic, or you’re bumming me out.” (what adult still says that?)

How do we know God? In 1 John 2:3 we find the surprising answer: “We know that we have come to know him if we keep his commands.”

 We tend to think of “knowledge” as purely intellectual activity, but in Scripture knowledge is often gained through experiences. It’s the difference between knowing about something or someone and knowing because we’ve gained understanding through an experiential encounter. Think of the way we can have knowledge about swimming through books, but we don’t really know what swimming is like until we are immersed in water and flailing our limbs in an attempt to stay afloat. We only fully gain “knowledge” of swimming by swimming.

 Similarly we don’t come to know God through abstract speculation but through living our lives the way the Lord requires. Specifically, we come to know God by understanding and then doing what he commands.

 We gain the first part by searching Scripture to understand exactly what God commands of us (see, for example, “32 Commands of Christ”). Once we know what God wants us to do, we then come to know God by doing what he wants us to do.

 What that means, in light of 1 John 2:3, is that the process for Christians to know God occurs through the following steps:

  Step #1—We learn what God requires through reading and meditating on his Word.

 Step #2—Powered by God’s grace, we obey and keep his commands.

 Step #3—Through keeping God’s commands, albeit in our flawed way, we gain experiential knowledge of the One who kept the commands perfectly, Jesus Christ.

 Step #4—By increasing our knowledge of Christ, we grow in communion with the Father.

 Step #5—This knowledge, gained through the experience of keeping God’s commands, gives us assurance, as John wrote, that “we know that we have come to know him.”

 Step #6—This knowledge reveals God’s beauty and glory, motivating us to delve deeper into Scripture so we can gain a better understanding of how to obey him even more.

  Obedience thus becomes not just our means for knowing God but a motivation that drives us to know him more.

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my apologies for falling behind on email responses, hopefully i can get caught up this weekend.

Pray for Bobbie K, his wife slept with a homeless man, pray that as they go through counseling that the Lord will work on both their hearts.

Pray for Lauren M, 25, has a boyfriend that is pressuring her to have sex, they’ve been together 6 years and he’s never discussed marriage. She needs to keep vows to God and not succumb to his negative comments, i.e. like he’s going to bail. I asked her to ask him to see me, and he won’t, so I kind of know where this is going to go.

For S.K. he wants to stop using drugs and acting out in a very dangerous manner that could get him killed

For Sammie, she’s been cutting herself and just entered the hospital this afternoon of her own accord.

I guess we are on a kick about lies told in church, especially in the Pentecostal/Charismatic vein. I’m always surprised when I talk to someone in the mainline denominations and they’ve never heard this crap, so for all us lunatics in the fringe crowd, this is for you.

Don’t believe this lie

Two lies you don’t want to believe and again this may be foreign theology for some but that’s why we are covering it because it’s bad theology.

Lie number one; bloodline curses.

Lie number two; nation curses, or nationality curses.

There are actually spiritual idiots out there that as the apostle Paul says are preaching for the sound of their own voices, and to tickle the ears of the foolish or vain.

One favorite preacher/teacher now long time departed Donald Barnhouse who  preached a great sermon about Jack Ass preachers, with long ears with bells on them, love to hear themselves talk, or as he said listen to their own ‘braying’.

The two lies are similar versions of the same lie and can sneak into your life and cause you much needless suffering.

First the bloodline curse, this is the lie that you are prone to sin, a particular sin because of your parents, especially if you look like one of them or have learned negative traits that are similar to theirs.

So If your father was a rageaholic ( I know spell check is going nuts) then it make sense that you are also cursed to be a rageaholic. (rage + addicted to rage), it’s a learned behavior pattern, not a curse of bloodline. Sounds simple but unlearn the negative behavior; don’t blame it on a curse, or that demons can taunt you and hound you because it’s a family curse, you need deliverance, no such thing, it’s simply not true.

Reason number uno, and primary reason why its not true, is when you accepted Christ as your savior His bloodline became your bloodline and even if the curse was true it was broken by His resurrection and the fact that His sacrifice (blood) was acceptable as final payment to God.

The nationality curse, i.e. I’m Irish so I’m supposed to fight and drink, demons encourage it, they haunt me, tempt me, prompt me because the Irish are cursed, prone to depression, etc. very similar to the bloodline curse but it’s still hooey.

Never blame your actions on something external, never blame your actions on something like your race, nationality etc. yes some nationalities are more prone to alcoholism then others but that’s genetics not a curse.

The problem with curses, (even though Lon Chaney in the wolfman is probably my favorite movie) they have one purpose and that is to make you feel helpless or not in control, more hooey, you and you alone will stand before almighty God and give account for all your actions and motivations, and believe me there is no scripture to support a bloodline curse, (except that of being related to Adam and the sin of all mankind).

The other problem there is always some high and mighty super Christian snob, goody goody know it all that thinks they have super powers and have a deliverance ministry, more hooey, only you and your relation to Christ can deliver yourself. You don’t have to ‘take authority’ over anything, just believe in the work of God through his Son and bang, instant deliverance (speaking of deliverance and movie themes, absolutely hated the movie, I wouldn’t go canoeing or camping for years).

So don’t believe the lie, if you are a Christian then there is no demonic ties to your behavior, which as a bonus I going to throw in a free lie, if you are a Christian you cannot be cursed because you touched a crystal, or touched a Ouija board at a garage sale, etc. because we are blood bought, purchased and sealed, kept by God; so stop struggling so much and relax in Christ, not RIP, but RIC , hey maybe that will become as popular as WWJD.

God Bless,

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what the hell

July 6, 2017

BEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPPP

WE INTERRUPT THIS REGULAR SCHEDULE BROADCAST FOR THIS EMERGENCY BROADCAST.

REMEMBER THAT SOUND ON THE RADIO, ANNOYING ISN’T IT, WELL THIS IS AN EMERGENCY DEVOTIONAL.

I RECEIVED AN EMAIL ON SCUMLIKEUSCHURCH@GMAIL.COM THAT WAS SUCH AN IMPORTANT TOPIC THAT I FELT IT MUST BE COVERED HERE RIGHT NOW.

FIRST LET ME SAY THIS, REMEMBER A FEW DEVOTIONALS BACK WHEN I MENTIONED THE SHORT LIST VERSUS THE LONG LIST AND THAT ONE WAS WORTH FIGHTING OVER, WELL I JUST ADDED ONE MORE ITEM TO THE SHORT LIST AND SERIOUSLY I WILL FIGHT OVER THIS ONE.

NOW YOU NEED TO KNOW A LITTLE EXTRA ABOUT ME SO I CAN PUT THE FEAR OF GOD INTO YOU, I’VE BEEN SHOT ONCE, STABBED TWICE AND LITERALLY SCALPED WITH A CROWBAR. I’VE BEEN IN 3 CONFRONTATIONS THAT COULD HAVE ENDED IN MY DEATH BESIDES THE ONES MENTIONED ABOVE.

SO MY POINT, I THINK VIOLENCE HAS A VALID POINT TO CONVINCING SOMEONE I’M SERIOUS. I KNOW ALL YOU SUGAR CONE CHRISTIANS ARE FROTHING AT THE MOUTH AND TALKING ABOUT LOVE AND HARMONY BUT LET ME TELL YOU WHAT HAS ME ALL WORKED UP.

BACK TO THE EMAIL, SO BASICALLY IT GOES LIKE THIS, “PASTOR, I WAS JUST AT A BIBLE STUDY AND WAS TOLD THAT I WAS POSSESSED BY AN UNCLEAN SPIRIT AND THAT IT NEEDED TO BE DEALT WITH AND THEY PRAYED IT OUT OF ME.”

RAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGGGGGGEEEE, (RAGE, IF YOU HAVE DYSLEXIA)

THIS IS A CHRISTIAN PERSON BEING TOLD BY A CHRISTIAN LEADER THAT CHRISTIANS CAN BE POSSESSED.

FIRST LET ME START WITH THIS BIBLE VERSE AND ITS ONE YOU LIKELY WON’T BE THINKING OF STARTING WITH. THE APOSTLE PAUL SAYS; “WE ARE TO MARK THOSE WHO DISTORT THE TRUTHS OF THE BIBLE.” THE WORD “MARK” IN GREEK LITERALLY MEANS TO PUNCH OR STRIKE SOMEONE IN THE FACE SO THAT THEY ARE BRUISED AND PEOPLE CAN SEE IT AND KNOW WHAT HAS HAPPENED.

WAY TO GO APOSTLE PAUL, YOUR SPEAKING MY LANGUAGE, IF I RAN INTO A CHRISTIAN LEADER, PASTOR, ETC AND HEARD THIS KIND OF THING COMING OUT OF THEIR MOUTH, I WOULD WARN THEM TO STOP VERY STRONGLY WARN THEM TO STOP.

I ONCE HAD A HUSBAND WHO WAS BEATING HIS BLIND WIFE, I WENT TO HIS HOUSE AND WHEN HE OPENED THE DOOR I PUNCHED HIM IN THE FACE, AND THEN SAID TO HIM, “YOU DIDN’T SEE THAT COMING, DID YOU, WELL NEITHER DOES SHE.” THEY HAVE NOW BEEN MARRIED 55 YEARS AND THERE HAS NEVER BEEN ANOTHER ACT OF VIOLENCE, AND HE COMES TO CHURCH ON A REGULAR BASIS. SO MAYBE A PUNCH IN THE NOSE REALLY WORKS.

WELL LETS PRETEND I’M REALLY SPIRITUAL AND REAL MATURE AND HANDLE IT LIKE A REGULAR, NORMAL PASTOR (YOU CAN’T HEAR THIS BUT I’M LAUGHING MY A$$ OFF RIGHT NOW, ME NORMAL, STOP IT YOUR KILLING ME.)

SO BIBLE VERSES TO HELP

 2 Corinthians 1:22-23

New English Translation (NET)

22 who also sealed us and gave us the Spirit in our hearts as a down payment

 

Ephesians 1:13

New English Translation (NET)

13 And when you heard the word of truth (the gospel of your salvation)—when you believed in Christ—you were marked with the seal of the promised Holy Spirit,

 

Ephesians 4:30

New English Translation (NET)

30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption

IT IS IMPOSSIBLE FOR A CHRISTIAN TO BE FILLED WITH THE HOLY SPIRIT, SEALED FOR CHRIST, MARKED FOR CHRIST, AND TO BE POSSESSED BY ANY OTHER EVIL OR DEMONIC SPIRIT.

WE ARE ONLY CAPABLE AS A VESSEL DEDICATED TO GOD TO BE ENTERED INTO BY THE HOLY SPIRIT, NONE OTHER SPIRIT THAT IS EVIL CAN ENTER INTO US. IT DOESN’T MATTER WHAT THIS NUT JOBS SAY, THEY WILL TYPICALLY USE THE FOLLOWING TWISTED LOGIC; “WELL YOU MUST HAVE USED A OUIJAS BOARD BEFORE YOU GOT SAVED AND THAT’S’ HOW IT GOT IN, OR YOU READ HOROSCOPES, OR SAW A MEDIUM OR MESSED WITH BLACK MAGIC; AND WHEN YOU GOT SAVED THE HOLY SPIRIT HAS BEEN STRUGGLING WITH THIS OTHER SPIRIT AND THAT’S WHY YOU ARE HAVING THESE PROBLEMS.”

REALLY, ANOTHER CONFESSION, (OH DEAR) I WAS IN A BLACK SATANIC CULT, DRANK URINE, HAD HOLY WAFERS OF COMMUNION SPREAD WITH MENSTRUAL BLOOD, DID ALL THE WEIRD SEX, MAGIC BULLSH!T. AND I CAN TELL YOU WHEN I GOT SAVED, BORN AGAIN, BLOOD WASHED, WHATEVER YOU WANT TO CALL IT THERE WAS NO PROBLEM WITH BEING 100% FILLED TO THE BRIM WITH THE HOLY SPIRIT. THERE IS NOTHING ELSE LIVING IN ME BESIDES THE SPIRIT OF GOD AND THE STUPID PART OF ME THAT TRIPS ME UP MORE THAN I LIKE.

SO WATCH OUT,, SPEAK SUCH LIES IN FRONT OF ME AND I MAY NOT BE VERY PASTORAL. 

SORRY IF YOUR OFFENDED BY MY CARNAL ANGER AND TALK OF VIOLENCE, BUT REALLY IF YOU ARE ONE OF THESE LYING, DEGRADING, CHURCH LEADERS I WILL CALL YOU OUT TO FACE THE MUSIC.

Taking Care of All

June 15, 2017

Taking care of all

God, says James, accepts two evidences of religion: “pure and faultless,” inner purity and acts of compassion toward the most vulnerable members of society (Jas 1:27). Christians are to model Jesus in both his purity and his service to those in need. Just as God comes to the aid of those in need, those who practice true religion “look after” two of the most vulnerable groups, orphans and widows.

 Here are five simple ways to look after widows and orphans:

  1. Recognize them—While we often think of an “orphan” as a child who has lost both parents, the term can also include loss of one parent or abandonment in general. Similarly, while single parents who have not lost a spouse through death are not technically widowed, they often face similar problems and are deserving of our compassion. The church is filled with single parents, foster kids, step kids, blended families, unmarried parents, pregnant teens. We need to make sure our church door and hearts are open to all.

  2. Look after them—Christ used the word for “look after” in Matthew 25:43 to describe the ministry of caring for those in prison. Obeying this appeal calls for more than just donating money or an occasional visit; it requires we devote ourselves to them with personal concern. We need to train our church folks to not come to church with blinders on; to “see” everyone in the church and to love all.

  3. Provide relief for widows—Being a widow or single parent can often be lonely and exhausting because they have to do the work of a couple all by themselves. Providing relief can be as simple as taking them a meal, helping them shop for groceries or babysitting so they can get some rest. Find one way to help them regularly.

  4. Spend time with orphans—Boys need men who can exhibit Biblical masculinity and girls need women to demonstrate Biblical femininity. Be a role model by spending time with a child just being a model of Christ’s love. Make a commitment to spend regular time with them. “Orphaned kids are more needy than most, and that need doesn’t expire. Yes, God is their heavenly Father, but they also need the hands and feet of the church.”

  5. Incorporate them into your life—The most helpful way we can look after widows and orphans is to incorporate them into our own lives and our families. Make an effort to include them in your regular activities.

God bless from scumlikeuschurch@gmail.com

Remember Joe R, in your prayers for his shoulder

Paul K for his upcoming cancer surgery.

 

love you, man

June 12, 2017

It’s love your brother/sister day

The writer of Hebrews exhorts us to “keep on loving one another as brothers and sisters” (13:1). The Greek term used in this verse—philadelphia—means “love of brother or sister,” the affection one has for their family members. In the New Testament it refers to a sense of affection for a fellow Christian.

 Mutual affection is showing the same care and concern for fellow believers that we would show family members. As members of God’s family, we are expected to truly treat one another as siblings in Christ. Are you working to develop the same intimacy with your church family as you would your biological family?

 Here are three mini-habits that help us to develop mutual affection:

  1. Memorize and meditate on Romans 12:10: “Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.” Ask God to increase your affection for other believers.

  2. Make a list of four brothers and sisters in Christ. Over the next month, select one a week for whom you will perform a special act of kindness. Make note of how this changes your relationship with them.

  3. If you have your own home, set a date once a month to invite a college student, widow, military service member or someone who lives alone to come over for coffee or dinner. If you don’t have a place of your own, make a habit of taking a meal to a shut-in or inviting a lonely church member out to lunch.

Surprise, yes, you actually have to tell brothers’ and sisters’ in the Lord to “love one another”, hard to believe but true.

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